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Our Emotions and our Control of them
The way we feel and our emotions are an important part of our relaxation process, and I felt it necessary to dedicate a page to this very important topic. It is expected that many different situations, and feelings will confront us over our lives, and whilst things can occur that we do not like, or agree with, it is the way that we choose to deal with things that makes the difference. As an example, it is quite possible that someone may berate us, or give us a hard time, as part of our daily dealings with people, either in business, or personally. At the end of the day, as we say in Australia, we can choose to be affected and angry, or we can control our emotions, and move on. I realize this is very easy to say, and it can take practice to implement, but the results are well worth the effort! Another slant on this is that you may, for no reason at all, start to feel angry, or resentful, and so on. These thoughts or feelings can sometimes come out of no particular place, at any time, and we need to know the following, to deal with them more effectively. To bring ourselves back on track, it’s worth doing the following: • If at all possible, let the issue go! If pent up emotions need to be released, then do so and release the feelings. Catch yourself if you feel you will analyze, and turn the issues over in your mind, and so on. The best thing, once your decision to let something go is done, is to do so, and move on. Do not dwell on things. Again, I realize this may sound like a lecture, but please know the releasing and forgiving rule is a powerful one! • Keeping things in perspective with a positive mindset can go along way. I’m not suggesting you simply say everything is great, but realize that it is possible to develop a resilience to stress, and therefore, handle it a little better. It is mostly our reaction, rather than the problem itself to mind. Optimism will always be easier to deal with, rather than dwelling on all the things that can go wrong. • Look at things form as many different point of views as possible. Remember- if someone is giving you a hard time on the road, like being impatient, remember- the other driver may have some problems of their own, and not be in the best mood. It doesn’t give them the right to be arrogant, rude or dangerous, but understanding on our part can help us to not be affected by it personally. I know it’s hard, but again, achieving this even once, can be a great boost to our morale, and help us achieve even better next time! • Finally, being assertive when we need to be can be a good thing too. To not allow someone to affect our day is one thing, but if you have something you need to get off your chest, because you have a valid opinion or right is OK. Just do so with dignity, say your piece, and then, move on.
I really do hope that the above points help you to realize that it is important to control our emotions, so we are not run by them instead.
Be the best you can be!
Click here to be directed to an article on emotions from the Texas University
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